i NEVER give a quilt to someone that they have not been a participant in from saying YES, they want a quilt, the choosing of the pattern and the choice of fabric. Eliminates disappointments.
My next quilt is one that i'll be giving to my brother. And while, yes, I made it w/ him/his family in mind. When I got it together, I asked if he wanted it and emphasized if he didn't, please tell me. I knew I would have lots of others who would have been interested in it. I am trying to use up my stash and it is a quilt made from that fabric.
I also was pretty sure that his wife would like it and we all know that it is the wife that is the decision maker in these types of gifts.