Sometimes life is a test of your love and patience with those around you. I have always just gone ahead and done what I was asked because god always blesses my efforts in some unexpected way. It isn't the things I did do that ruin my mind, it is the things that I struggle against and resent that hurt my peace of mind and existence in this world.
This lady is oblivious to the request she made now. But, as she uses your lovely quilt, she will become aware of the love and effort you spent on her. I think you are one sweet lady to give of your talent and time. Maybe her heart will grow from this experience.