OP, your daughter is 20, how long do you think she will be living with you? I ask as my son is 20 and he is attending university 5 hours away and is only home now about 3 weeks a year. I think it best to find the best home for you and your dh first and fit your daughter in second, unless there is a reason we do not know about that means she will have to live with you for a long time.
I may be moving in three years. Things that will be important to me, may not be important to you, but here goes:
I want to following or the ability to add the following, in no particular order:
Fenced yard
No restrictions on number or type of pets
RV parking on my property
Mature fruit trees
Walking distance to shopping
No more than a 20 minute commute to work
Sewing and long arm room
Lots of big windows and lots of light
Bright kitchen with lots of counter tops - I currently have a bright kitchen with limited counters
Big laundry room, with storage and room for my deep freeze, preferably on the main floor