Its your decision so do as you wish. I'd probably side with you too if its a wallhanging and not a bed quilt. I'd rather it not have the wrinkled look either. As for my bed quilts I always wash them before I give them as a gift as I tend to use Elmer's Glue and want to have it removed beforehand plus I'd rather deal with bleeding if it happens instead of the recipent fretting over thinking she/he destroyed it.