All great ideas, but, when all else fails, take her shopping! My dil wanted a queen sized quilt when they got married, but knowing the work involved and my innate insecurities, I knew I needed buy-in or I would second guess myself til the cows came home. I gave her a pile of quilt magazines and she fell in love with one of them, then we went shopping. They have been married 20 years now and that dang quilt is still on their bed!! Need to make another!! Good luck to you!