My former mother in law, made snotty comments when she was at my house one day and saw that the beds were not made. I got the "in my day...." comments and the talk about how she raised her sons.
I countered with the fact that I got up with the children, got them dressed, fed and to school on time, and myself to work, while her lazy a$$ son slept in and most days did not go to work. How did she expect me to make the bed with a man still in it?
I do not feel that not making your bed is a character flaw, a sign of laziness or making the bed a mandatory action.
Now that I am on my own, I generally make my bed, but not as soon as I get out of it. I sometimes make the bed around the cats.
On the day I wash the sheets, I wait until I bring the sheets back inside to make my bed. I love the smell of a line dried bedding.