I am so sorry for you. I can't even imagine. Alcohol worked for me once when I had a pen in a uniform pocket in the washing machine. Also, I always have success on stains with Blue Dawn dish detergent. I mix with a little water and use an old toothbrush, rub it on the stain, and then throw the piece in a washing machine with lots of cold water (not in a high efficiency) and let it soak overnight. It gets all the stains out. I haven't used bleach in years. Maybe it will work for you.