Jane, I've just read through all the post and really feel for you. So sorry you had to go through all the stress. Your quilt is beautiful and will look lovely on your own bed.
I'm now dithering on having to wash a hand quilt that has red in it and was made before I knew I should wash the fabric first. Your post has been a real education and I'll now collect anything I can get my hands on for bleeds, just in case.