costume girl...I thought I was reading all about me as I, too, am in a similar situation with the revolving door. Our closest is a half mile and a hill and the 5 Grands are in and out daily in the summer...wouldn't have that any other way.. :-)... the others are 5 hours and much further apart. When they come they spend a week, wouldn't have that any other way either...but it does change things doesn't it?
After sorting for my neighbor after she passed, I am on a mission to get my mess in order as well...wish us both luck...