Thanks ladies Janice you might be right. Maybe I'm trying to hard to control part of my life and over compensating.
I emailed my nephew's wife and asked if they had a theme or special colors for the baby's room. She replied no theme, walls will be neutral, furniture is brown and they will add a few rustic decorations. Yikes not much to go on. Everyone tells me I should wait and see if the baby lives but even if the little guy doesn't make it they will have a quilt that belonged to their first born. Mom and Dad both love being out in nature, they are avid fishermen and hunters. Theme fabric is bear, moose, squirrels and fish. Going to make the Warm wishes pattern. Just need my arms and wrists to settle down a bit first.