It sounds like your leadership is either dictatorial and the membership is not one the same page. Do you have the right information about legal and guild requirements? If your participation for the sewing day is poor it sounds like another avenue of making charity quilts is in order. Personally, I would not go and tie quilts because they do not hold up in use. Yes, they might be quicker than simple grid quilting or meandering quilting but they just do not hold up. I know I would not do that. You need more information and an open and honest discussion and a new, unified plan. There is nothing nicer than fellowship and sewing but.....you need to want to do it. Why, do you want to belong; or, do you want to belong?