Originally Posted by
Kassaundra
This is not quilting or boom related, but something I need to make a decision on very soon.
Here is the set up. There is a family member you are suppose to be close w/ however are not, you are always expected to be put out in any interaction w/ them, they make very little attempt at a relationship w/ you except when it makes them "look good". Someone that is very close to them is having surgery. You volunteered to be with them at the hospital for it, but told them you needed to know as soon as they knew the date and time of the surgery so you could make arrangements. They know for some time, but don't tell you until 3 days before. As it happens you could go, do you?
I feel it is a passive aggressive action, and attempt to legitimize their "victim" status of having no support. Do I sound off base?
I try to make these kind of decisions by a "no regrets" thinking. Which will cause me regret? I don't have to live with the consequences of their decisions, but of mine. Someone is not using me if I'm choosing to do what I do. But there are people who have used up their "help me out" or be there for me status. But then again when I make the decision it's about what I'm choosing to do, not what they are requiring me to do. ( did that make any sense) I often do things that others might not, but then again sometimes what those around me think should be a priority just isn't. This is a hard one. How will it impact the one having surgery?