Originally Posted by
Kassaundra
This is not quilting or boom related, but something I need to make a decision on very soon.
Here is the set up. There is a family member you are suppose to be close w/ however are not, you are always expected to be put out in any interaction w/ them, they make very little attempt at a relationship w/ you except when it makes them "look good". Someone that is very close to them is having surgery. You volunteered to be with them at the hospital for it, but told them you needed to know as soon as they knew the date and time of the surgery so you could make arrangements. They know for some time, but don't tell you until 3 days before. As it happens you could go, do you?
I feel it is a passive aggressive action, and attempt to legitimize their "victim" status of having no support. Do I sound off base?
GramE pretty well nailed it. but I'll add my 2 cents worth anyway, I am not one to do things because of someone else's idea of responsibility or duty. I do them because I want to not out of guilt or sense of duty.
What will make you feel worse? going and dealing with that possible drama or not going and dealing with your own internal dialog? I do not think you are off base at all.