Thank you everyone. I would like to know what not pressing the binding helps, but am fully willing to try. I am not opposed to machine binding it's just that I don't like the looks of some of the types I have seen, however I need to investigate further (such as the flanged binding) to see some other options. I have thought of sewing to the back and the doing a decorative stitch on the front, my quilts are never show quality so that would be OK.
One of the things I don't like about the hand stitching it on the back is often you can see these tiny bites (not the thread just where the stitch is) and then a hump, bite hump, bite hump, and it just looks strange/bad to me. Maybe I'm not making sense or I'm stressing over something that only I see.
Well, thank you everyone for sharing how you do your binding, I always enjoy reading these things so that I have other ideas to try.