I do realize that yes, once it's given, it's theirs to do as they wish and I agree with that sentiment.
BUT, it is disheartening when someone shows a blatant disregard for the work and materials that you put into the quilt. With the cost of materials here, it can *easily* cost me $200 to make a quilt not to mention the hours and hours of work involved. To see one used as an oil-catcher to prevent a dirty driveway or people hacking holes into it shows a definite lack of respect. I bite my tongue about a lot of things, but if I saw a piece abused in such a way I wouldn't be shy to let them know, conversationally, that it cost x amount of $ to make along with x amount of hours and that I wouldn't be making the mistake of gifting them one again.
I want it to be used and enjoyed. Blanket forts, picnics, whatever, I don't care. They don't have to treasure it, but if they are just going to trash a piece, then I'd rather just take that money and toss in the garbage can myself and save them the trouble. Just sayin'.