This is a bit of a twist too. Before I was a quilter I did a lot of crochet and made everyone I knew an afghan. One of my favorites was one for my grandmother, it was a kit, and each square looked like a daisy. (The daisy is one of my favorite flowers.) She loved it! From the moment I gave it to her, it went on display. She had it on a chair in her TV room. So I thought - great, she is using it. She always said, "Why save it for good? Who is Goodder than we are?" It stayed in that room - my aunt who owns the house now told me my Grandmother would not let anyone else use it. They could look at it and admire it - but my grandmother was the only person allowed to use it.
A friend of mine, was very upset when she found out her grandson allowed their dog to sit on a quilt she had given him. I understood how she felt but after I read the book, "That Dorky Homemade Look" it really changed my opinion - I give a quilt and all I want is for someone to enjoy it and use it. It doesn't have to be showed off and admired - that is a perk - but not mandatory. I made one for a friend going thru surgery and chemo - she said she used my quilt to keep her warm and her kitty loved to cuddle with her on the quilt.