my son never got a spanking. he was a good kid. when he did something he wasn't supposed to do, i'd let him pick his punishment or i'd make him come home and lay on his bed, or watch the news and tell me what it was all about. once, I just got him a mew bike. I told him not to go past the driveway. so of course he did. I told him to pick his punishment. wow, did he go overboard. He said a week without his new bike. I worked hard to get it for him, and wanted him to use it. so I said just that day. I made him tell me why I wouldn't let him past the driveway, so I let him out. he told all the kids, not to go past the driveway, or i'd punish them. I never spanked him, ever. I was spanked with a belt, really hard by my stepfather. I hated that man.