In response to chewboo about the Secret Santa: my SS never responded to me personally or to moderator. Because I sent more $$$ than I normally would because I was so excited to be able to and wanted my SS to have some nice things, I was concerned she never received.
I PM'ed moderator and three times she PM'ed SS for me. Finally, SS said she received the package. Nothing else.
So, I decided I would not be as generous with board members who are not regulars. She was new to me and had only posted a few times (less than 15). Selfish I know, but that way I do not feel taken or set myself up for failure because of poor manners on their part. Also, I read their profile more closely now and look for hints in their postings of their agenda.
Currently my SQA is a very busy parent, works full-time and goes to school. I don't expect anything from them when I send something that way I am not disappointed.
This was not meant to be a contest of who could receive the most or best, but to let our SQA know we are thinking about them, making a new friend, and as able, to send a note, or card, or a gift.
I cherish the little calendar my SQA sent. I have it on a kitchen wall space about 8" wide before leaving the room so I see it swvwerak times a day and say a prayer for them and I smile knkowing they are thinking of me.
Hope this helps some of you struggling with this.