If the quilt is for a bed, than I make one based on the size of bed. Some people just place the quilt on edge of bed instead of using it for a bedspread. These can be heavy but so are most spreads for queens or kings sized beds. But, I have made oversized lap quilts if it's gifted to a tall person. That's so sweet that you are considering this issue. Definitely not a silly question.
edit to add: you can always use a less heavy batting to lighted the weight of the quilt.
Last edited by Teen; 12-24-2017 at 11:50 AM.