Oooo...lots of good information popping up here!
ptquilts...nope, definitely not going to hand quilt! I have a stitch on my machine that, when correctly manipulated and used with invisible thread on top, is supposed to look like a hand-done quilt stitch...complete with "spaces" in between. Still need to experiment, but it is my current plan to use that. However, at the rate that I am working on this (very, very, slowly), I suspect that Sashiko machines will be available more in my price range, and may go with that instead!
roguequilter...thanks for the IM and the additional ideas on places to look!
I think I am going to compromise and find a happy medium just beyond my preference for non-crinkle...let's call it moderate crinkle! And definitely a knife edge...I like the look and have plenty of time to practice.
It is interesting that four posters are more of a north east thing. I did not know that. This bed was purchased used by my great great grandparents when they bought a house in Provincetown, Massachusetts. They bought several pieces of used furniture at this time, as they had been living with relatives for the first years of their marriage, and needed items for their house. I have the bill of sale to their house (which is now a bed and breakfast), and it is dated exactly one month before President Lincoln was assassinated. All of their 7 children were born in it, and several died in it as well. And in all the time between then and now it has never had a properly fitted quilt!