I don't remember my age, but I remember my children's ages - each was about 8 years old. They each came to me separately and asked. I told each in turn that Santa was the spirit, a feeling and a way of acting during the holidays; it was important for each one of us to make it special for others and now that you know Santa is not a real person who comes with presents, it it each of us giving presents and love to each other in a secret way. I asked each of them to not tell their younger sibling/s and Dad and I would need their help in keeping the spirit of Santa special for the whole family. They were delighted that they were allowed to be part of all the secrets for each other.