sewbizgirl

So... grandmothers. I only knew one of mine, my mother's Russian mother. She was so mean and self centered. She could be very nice and gracious to her many friends, but was so critical and ugly to her family... all the time! As kids, we dreaded the two weeks every year that she came and stayed with us for a visit. I try to be understanding of the very hard life she had... Leaving Russia at a young age with a baby, her husband dying of TB, and then her next marriage ending in divorce. Time spent with my mother in a Japanese concentration camp in Shanghai during WWII made her very bitter and warped my mom, and then she had to be a single mother to finish raising my mom. Her later in life (3rd!) husband died the week after he retired, falling off a ladder. So she's had it rough... but still, no reason to be hateful to those who love you. People like that in your life can really make you evaluate things and decide how you Dont want to be! I learned a lot of how I didn't want to be from her.