Hi Suz! Welcome from Minnesota - we appear to have a lot in common. I was lucky to have a successful cervical fusion and woke up from the surgery kicking myself that I had lived with pain for so long. Hoping that you find some relief. With regard to your divorce, I found it helpful to read some books on grief. Wishing you all the best - an open and friendly attitude will help you to find friends in your new location. Good luck!