I love to make quilts and send them off to friends and family as a surprise. I've also made them as gifts for hse warmings, new babies etc...You learn who appreciates and who doesn't. Those who don't understand the cost and work that goes into it, get crossed off my list for future surprises or gifts.
I see you said it was a gift...you now have learned the wife doesn't appreciate that it was a gift for a baby, not her and the other kids...also not caring to have the husb ask you abt washing instructions...So I agree...cross this couple off the list and just say...Sorry I have so many other commitments and leave it at that...I wouldn't offer to do anything even if they paid me...because somewhere along the makings they'd change their minds or want it done this way or that way...NO...one easy word...