I can’t say no to my kids. My eldest lives in new York now and keeps inviting his friends to Oregon when he visits. He did it again this year, only asking us if it was ok after he’d already extended the invite. I think I’ll have a talk with him about it this year. Part of the problem is that I’m about as introverted as you can get and he’s equally extroverted. When he brings his friends to stay with us, it zaps me of all my energy.