I can only relate to you as it applied to my granddaughter who is now 12 years old. Even though she was in Brownies, Girl Scouts, and dancing, she had no close friends. She didn’t get to select those girls she was compatible with. She missed out, to a large degree, acting silly and goofing off with a friend in a non- structured environment, such as at her house or a friend's house. Being an only child, she really needed to be around her friends. When she was 11, she begged her parents to let her go to school. They were ok with that and now she is very happy. I realize what is good for her may not be the answer for others. Every family is different.