I’m a new quilter too and I agree with everything you say!
Not so long ago I set myself an ambitious for me project to make a 9 block sampler wall hanging for my son and his wife in Canada. I wanted each block to be different and have something to do with their family. The first block was a maple leaf - I had a terrible job with one of the points. The next was ‘lady of the lake’ - I battled with that to get the HSTs right. When I tried to start on the third block I realised the project had become a chore. I wasn’t enjoying myself so I didn’t do anymore.
Quilting is my hobby, so my motto is ‘If I m not enjoying it - don’t do it!