I kind of get it! While everyone gathers in our kitchen for chit-chat and snacks, once the meal is done, I'll handle things! I don't put my china, wine glasses, or silverware in the dishwasher, nor my crystal serving pieces. I don't put my aluminum trays in there either. I enjoy hand washing things. I don't mind if you want to dry things and set them on the cleared table, but I'll put them away. My sons know to stay out of the way, but DIL and others want to jump in and help. Sometimes, if they've beat me to it, I'll wait till they've gone and remove things from the dishwasher that I want hand washed!