I say bring on the help! I don't particularly enjoy cooking; my DH actually does most of the evening meals and I do clean up. with big family meals, I do seem to be the "in charge" person and don't hesitate to assign tasks--think we enjoy our event more when all involved. At Thanksgiving, my DS prepped turkey, g-kids set the table and put out crudites, etc. My DIL grew up in a household where the kids never got involved with anything surrounding big family meals or even just daily house stuff--it's taken her about 9 yrs of my son's tutelage to enable her to manage a household--I think it's almost criminal that her mom did nothing to teach her as she grew up.