Many years ago, I asked my DH and my daughters why they did not put dishes in the dishwasher and they said it was because I would only move them around afterwards so, what was the point. That started the conversation about why I did that. It turns out that dishwashers have personalities and they have certain ways they like to be loaded...so, I taught those girls and the man the idiosyncrasies of our particular machine. No more excuses, no more fidgeting with the dishes after they were put in there. Now, to get that DH to learn how it works. PS I have no sons or SIL.