I have always thought of joining any new groups, even Guilds, like going to church. As long as you just go to the meetings, sit there, then go home. You will never meet anyone. Slowly you will look familiar and it will get friendlier but, no one knocks on you door and asks you to come out to play like neighborhood children used to do. It takes getting involved. I have never been in a Guild that doesn't ask for help in something. Whether it's Community Quilts or a new President. If a newcomer gets involved. Friends will come. Quilters are a friendly group on the whole, but each Guild is different. If getting involved doesn't open new doors, move to a different group.