All the items you mention are indeed a personal preference. I don’t have a bed runner but I do have decorative pillows on my bed, I sleep with 6 pillows. Currently my bedroom is rather bland, I just haven’t gotten around to spending the time decorating as much as I’d like, but I do enjoy all the frippery and have no problem taking off 20 pillows and then putting them back on. I haven’t even made a quilt for my bed yet, but once I do I will decorate accordingly, I actually enjoy decorating.