Hi Sharon and welcome to the board from the deep woods of New England!! We spent 30 plus years in northern VA and in retirement escaped the beltway madness for the serenity of the woods lol. You have found a treasure trove of quilty friends here (imho). While we love to think of 20 year olds as adults they still have a lot of growing up to do. Hopefully she will come around. Also, that she took the quilt with her indicates to me that somewhere in the deep recesses of her heart she knows. Long distance hugs and again Welcome!!