Barb, yes you are depressed, but probably short term. This is from another one that suffers from clinical depression, for over 30+ years. I had tried everything including prozac, didn't work. Found a great doctor and a great drug called Lexapro, can't tell you how different I feel. Never new what normal felt like until 5 years ago. I can concentrate, have very few panic attacks and have very few down days. In fact when I did, the doctor laughed and said welcome to normal, you should have an "occasional down day, that's normal".
The main thing is take care of yourself, you have a lot on your plate and a lot to be sad about, and that is ok, you are allowed. I still have bouts where it is hard to get off my butt and clean the house, but all in all I feel good and not sad, which is wonderful. But it is not a happy pill, just keeps me on an even keel so to speak.
I will say when my house is a mess, I am a mess. Once it is straighted up you will feel so much better. Mine is more guilt, I won't allow my self to do fun things when my house is a mess, without feeling guilty, which is stupid I know, but that is the way it is. Although 2 years ago when I broke my leg and could not get out of bed for 4 months, I had a huge attitude adjusment about house cleaning.
This might be a little TMI for the board. Oh well, feel better soon.