How did the two of you make your connection in the first place?
Perhaps back tracking can help you solve your mystery?
If you are close enough, perhaps a visit to her home?
The neighbours may be able to give you the info you need.
As to the repairs? .......... Perhaps with the goodness of your ♥, you could finish the 2nd quilt as well. If you find her, then you have them ready to return. Consider how the repaired quilts may warm her ♥, or her family's ♥s, should you eventually make the connection and find not so good news, such as serious illness, or worse, death. If you don't find them, you would still have the quilts ready on a moments notice, if eventually you do.