I tend to like the more craft pamphlet sort of thing, but I have a couple of thick reference books too even though I don't do much handwork any more and never did... but I did some needlepoint and crewel and embroidery here and there.
Although I've reduced my actual books to maybe 20 or so, I do have this book by Linda Causee -- I like the way it is laid out and the diagrams work well for me:
https://www.amazon.com/Encyclopedia-.../dp/9693115155
If you have any thrift or used book stores, I'd just browse around a bit..