At 51 you are probably in some stage of menopause. I'm now 64 and I think I'm all the way through it, it sure threw me for a loop for several years. I thought everyone was against me and trying to drive me crazy, tears came easy and I was a real mess. It finally let up it's grip and left me a lot smarter about a lot of things than before. I've now adopted the 20 year rule. If it won't matter in 20 years, it don't matter. Most things fall into that catagory. You can't pick your siblings and your kids can't either, in 20 years none of these problems will be there. Life is too short to worry over these kinds of things, your job is the most important of these, concentrate on that. As my son use to say " Don't sweat the small **** and it's all small ****, of course, he didn't make that up but, he said it lots.