Hav4 - I can not imagine what you are going through. I can not imagine tearing someone's hair out - just beyond me. And i always though that any fight be one on one with rules- and to make sure you have the correct person. Never a gang on one. Every person knows right from wrong - and each is responsible for their own actions. Lets not put blame on parents or society - it is on each boy.
May your son know how much he is loved - and all the prayers that we are sending up for him.