Once my quilts are gifted, they are "released back into the wild". The new owner can use them or not, their choice. However, I do always wash them in the washer and then throw them in the dryer and let the new owner know I did that so they are perfectly fine to use, throw on the floor whatever, and then can be washed by machine. I mainly gift quilts that are meant to be used and at some future date, find their last use to being used as a picnic blanket, dog bed, furniture protector or whatever before finally receiving a proper disposal after being just worn out.
I do occasionally make an art quilt and then I do ask if they want it before gifting it to them as not everyone wants a quilt on their walls no matter the size. Nor do they all have the same taste in design or color.