I grew up with the moms being in charge of the bills and buying. The check was brought home and given to the wife to deposit and handle the rest. I remember my grandmother making sure my grandfather had his spending money in cash everyday at the breakfast table. My mother deposited the check, bought groceries and went to the bill paying windows to pay bills in person. I don't remember any tension about money. We lived on what we had to live on.
I would never expect to get flak from my husband about any of my expenses. Every now and then he may say our budget is a little tight this month due to car repair or whatever and that's all he has to say.I don't like dealing with money so I'm glad he takes care of it