Originally Posted by pam1966
Yes, I got my feelings hurt. :roll: It was a remark that my SIL made. Bless her heart, she's pretty clueless, and I should consider the source, but it still upset me.
I was starting on a quilt for my mother. My SIL had come over to visit, and asked me what I was working on. So I told her. She then said to my dh, "At least she saves you money by making gifts!"
I didn't say a word. But what I wanted to say was....do you have any idea how much fabric costs nowadays? Not to mention all the time and effort that goes into this? I know you can trot on down to Bed Bath & Beyond and buy a comforter set on sale, yes I understand that. But for the money that a lot of quilts have in them (not counting our "labor")...we could go out and buy something in five minutes.
I guess it hurt me more because she didn't even consider the fact that I'm making this as a gift....something that I've made myself. My dh told me not to worry about it, that she takes after his mother and blurts out things without even thinking.
I know all this, but it still bugs me. :lol:
People react to things by the way they were brought up or the times they grew up in. My Mom is 88 (now) and she never wanted anything handmade. When she grew up, poor people had to make every thing. So when you could afford to go out and buy something it, even though you COULD make it, it was more valuable. When I was growing up we bought everything and it had little value to me. She would give me money to go buy school clothes and I would come home with a pattern and material. I taught myself to sew on her machine, which she said she didn't know how to use. They were ugly but I didn't care. Then I started recycling and that led to quilting and other crafts. Now she is bedridden and has advanced dementia and I am her caregiver. We are only here a short time, don't waste it letting some fool hurt your feelings. Celebrate the day.