We only learn if it is hard. Let her struggle and learn. Taking things apart teaches as much as putting things together. If you think you're doing too much sewing for her, you definitely ARE. Not all projects are completed in one session. Find something adorable that takes two or three sessions. I found my students really liked rag quilts and each of the steps is a lot of fun from choosing fabrics, to design, sewing and the final product. Cutting the ragged edges maybe not so much but it can teach patience and perseverance; perhaps even how to do repair work if the cuts are made too deeply. Rag quilts are great scrappy projects and of course you want to use that lovely soft flannel.