Iceblossom

I rather like QuiltE's comments -- am going to have to keep in mind that "is the guilt trip worthwhile" thing...

But especially, what are you going to do with this quilt when it is done? Will it mean anything to anyone? Or will it go back to where the unfinished project was?

If redoing the quilt gives you a closeness (maybe you never had) then go for it. But it sounds to me that maybe there is too much recrimination to be enjoyable -- so do away with the guilt! You have already carried it and valued it and recalled the memories and is ok to let it go.

But -- I know that many people love to rescue projects like this, sometimes they can be hard to find. Or, sometimes people want the little pieces! I was dealing more with vintage fabrics and people doing restoration level or at least wanting time appropriate pieces. But it is some people's idea of fun. Take a picture or two, post on Facebook Marketplace, or Craig's List or whatever is used in your area. Admit to having washed it, show pictures of what you consider problem spots, and let someone else take it on. If you have a quilt guild, that's a great place to offer it up.

Came back to edit -- if you just want it out of your life, you don't have to go to any more effort. No guilt!