I, too, am sorry for your pain. I know, now, though, why my grandmother's quilts all had a rumpled look. She washed just about every thing in her house every week, quilts included. They were rumpled, but her kids still fought over them when it came to dividing up her stuff. I was just a kid, and it was a sad thing for me. If you don't give it away, it can become a part of you life's work that you have kept, and your kids will treasure it.
Theresa