But I know I'll say yes.
My husband just told me this morning that he got a PM on Facebook from his step son who is 17, has a car and wants to come visit.
(Here's the brief story:
He is his step son from the woman he married when he left me, and we divorced, in 1999. He and I reconnected in 2004 when that marriage did not work out. We remarried in 2005.)
I always hate when he talks of those years in his life and talks about 'them'. BUT, I know they were a part of his life for 5 years. He talks about them less and less as time goes on, but now I know if he reconnects with the one son, he will be talking about them. (The 'other woman' is remarried now too.)
I know he loves me - we've known each other since 1978 and been together since 1985 except for that 5 year span. He and I were both married before and so there are other step children in our lives every day that I don't have a problem with. For some reason I have issues with these. (There are actually 3 boys).
I think the part about that time in his life that bothers me is that he experienced a lot of different things through work and life there and I was not a part of it. We've been a part of each other lives for so long, and then for 5 years we weren't together. I experienced a lot during those years also but rarely talk about them because I don't want him to feel bad for not being there with me.
Thanks for 'listening'. I have him dealing with waiting to hear my decision all day while he is working.