Originally Posted by NHSOMND
Recently, I made a kids quilt for a "friend's" young child who has been diagnosed with cancer (January) and is now receiving chemotherapy. I put time, effort, thought, and love in to creating the quilt and even putting in my note that it was "a quilt made of love and warmth to support them on those difficult days ahead".
I know life has turned upside down for their family and home is coming back to a normal state, after surgery and rounds of chemo, but after a month, I haven't received any acknowledgement for the quilt. No email, no note, no quick phone call.
Am I being heartless to the situation? I hope I'm above and beyond that and that my intent was not to get accolades for the quilt, but that it was a gift made out of love for their child and in some small way, to show that others do care about what is happening to them.
Has anyone had a similar situation happen and what did you do? Many thanks.
I am on the other end. My 25 year old had a car accident this summer and ended up a paraplegic. This was in late June. Our lives are wrapped up in going to see him, dealing with bills, problems, more hospitalizations etc. The family becomes totally mowed under by what is going on. They are also going through a period of mourning, your child doesn't have to die-but changes that are now out of your and their hands may permanently impact their life. If this was a new Mom with a new baby, we would say--she is just too busy or overwhelmed. Their family is overwhelmed. Maybe you should think of it this way, you don't expect a thanks--or even an acknologement, you made the quilt to give comfort. I am sure that it has. Please don't think they aren't giving you the credit, I feel sure that they are overwhelmed. I found that I could get through most days without crying, except when I had to write-notes, the blog telling how my son was doing, and going to sleep. Then I would fall apart. I don't know if this helps you at all. But I hope it might.