It's up to you to decide, but consider this: when you offer to open heart, it only makes your love grow fuller and more abundantly to give to others. If you make room for this young man in your life, you will only add to your own life, as well as your husband's and this kid. I agree that if a 17-year old thinks enough of your husband to contact him, its an opportunity to appreciate what you have in him and to enhance the list of reasons why you loved him in the first place. Love's only love when you give it away. Y'all will be in my prayers.