My husband often shops with me for quilt fabric. He is red/green color blind. That means certain colors don't look good to him and I do care about his opinion. Even though he can't appreciate my favorite colors 'hot pink', 'fuschia', etc., he does see the blue in those colors. Depending on what else was mixed into the dyes were used for the fabric, some of them look really good to him. So, like your wife, I don't buy some fabrics that he says are ugly and I do buy some that look very appealing to me. That balances both of us.