Alright, I'm kind of stuck in a pickle right now, and I'm not sure how to handle this situation... also, the last thing I want is to realize I totally overreacted because of these pregnancy hormones.
K, so I'm going to file my taxes tonight, my father has a program for that so I'm going to his place to do it on his computer, and I have like, a million papers I need to take with me. We used to be pretty good at keeping our papers filed properly, but Sasha has a system, and if I do it wrong he's going to complain that he can't find this or that paper, or whatever, and he's been ultra busy with school and work, so the pile of bills and paperwork that needs to be filed has just beein growing. It's not THAT bad, but all our papers are mixed up in there.
So, this morning, I took the pile of papers and started sorting them, just to find all my papers I needed to file my taxes, and I came across two tickets, totalling almost 600 dollars in infractions, which HE NEVER TOLD ME ABOUT! I'm not one to over react, really, I try to keep calm and collected, and I try not to show when I'm irritated or frustrated, because Sasha has a short fuse, and I always try to diffuse the situation.
We're not exactly is a very good financial situation right now, because I've been off work since August because of the pregnancy and my job was working with toxic chemicals and stuff, I do get paid leave, but lets just say that 55% of my salary doesn't cover squat. We've been scraping by, the bills are paid and the rent, insurance, both cars etc, but by the skin of our teeth really, so I'm assuming he was embarrassed by these infractions and didn't want to tell me because I would get upset. I mean, I wouldn't have been happy, but no amount of b!tching and moaning would fix it, so really, what's the point.
From what I understand on the tickets, he got pulled over for speeding (130 in a 100 zone) and then they found he hadn't paid his registration for his car -which I also didn't know. He was on my case time and time again to make sure mine was paid, I don't understand why his wasn't? These tickets were given to him on October 28th, and his license and registration payments should have been paid by September 15th...
Also, time and time again in conversation, he keeps mentioning that he's always careful on the roads not to speed since he got a ticket 2 years ago for going 72 in a 50 zone (now THAT is a bull ticket, really) and then one in Ontario last year for speeding but I was there, he was trying to get his cruise control to work so he was speeding up and then playing with the stupid button and whatever... but tickets out of province don't affect your registration anyway, so we're not worried about that.
Just last week he was asking me how long the infractions stay listed on your record, because for so many years after you get a ticket or whatever, your registration price goes up.
I really don't understand why he didn't just tell me about it in the first place, because now that I know it's driving me crazy!! He's not home right now, but I'm not sure if I should just drop it and forget about it, or if I should confront him about it? We pay for everythign together here, so it's not like he can say well it's his money and his business to pay for it.
We've always been honest with eachother, I do trust him, and I don't think he would ever lie to me ( he didn't tell me, but he didn't hide it really either, and if I ask he won't lie about it) but I don't understand this at all. I also don't know what he was doing in the area he got those tickets, it's not exactly next door, we have no business there and we don't know anyone who lives there either... but that's besides the point.
I got a 42 dollar parking ticket last fall, and I totally freaked out about it, I was SOOOO upset I didn't want this on my record. I know parking tickets don't affect your record at all, but this one was really bull. I contested it and won, but the fact was that I told him right away about it.
Please please please give me your advice!