Originally Posted by Shadow Dancer
"Sasha has a short fuse, but he's never abusive,"
What's your definition of abuse?
I read your post and it was deja vu. I am seeing this same scenario playing out with one of my children. People who make excuses for their actions/behavior are lying.
Ok, what I mean about having a short fuse, is that he's kind of still like a dramatic teen, and he kind of tends to make a big deal out of stupid things. Like, if he's playing a video game, and his character dies, it's the stupid nintendo's fault, or the remote's not working, or what a piece of crap because he worked 2 hours on that level and now he's game over and OMG... you know what I mean. Or, I'm working on a project in the living room (no room in the basement) and he comes home and I haven't picked up yet because I'm still working on it, all of a sudden, the whole house is a pig sty, or you know...
He's never physically abusive, ever, wouldn't hurt a fly, doesn't even like to squish spiders (I make him do it anyway because they're disgusting) and when he's venting about something, it's never like he's b!tching me out. Never putting me down, or slamming something I've done.
My mother was very abusive towards me when I was living at home, she's different now, since my brother (her favorite) whom could do not wrong in her eyes ended up in drugs, alcohol, getting busted by the cops at school, prison, and now he's 22 years old and has two kids... I guess she realised that now amount of screaming and yelling and putting ppl down and controlling will change somebody. She's not like that anymore, but let me tell you I've grown up a lot since then, and I absolutely would not put up with ANYTHING like that from somebody I chose to spend the rest of my life with, nor would I ever put my children in that kind of situation.
I swear to you, he is the most wonderful man. Everyone has their faults, and I can't say he has none, but really, it is NOT the kind of situation some of you guys are thinking, I promise.